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Grief letter 2: I’m sad you’re gone.
This is the second of three letters about grief. One of my sisters, Susan Matadobra, passed away in 03/2023. She was 63 and passed from complications of chronic kidney failure. One exercise to help with grief is to write letters to that person.
Grief letter 2: I’m sad you’re gone.
Dear Susan, I’m sad that you’re gone. I really wish you could still be around. I miss giving you a hug and talking to you. You were a very important person in my life for 54 years of my life. You were my first friend, my first babysitter, and the first person I danced with, and you looked out for me when I was little, sick, and not well. You held my hands in the hospital when I became diabetic in 2010. You were there for me. I’m sad you couldn’t let me be the same way as you. There were so many barriers that you put up for yourself. That made it hard to reach… I’m sad you didn’t have the courage to believe in yourself. And that’s being so hard on yourself. I’m sorry, I couldn’t help you with that. I wish I could have.
You knew I was coming just before you passed, when you were in hospice. And unfortunately, I got there after you had already left. What was I going to do? I was just going to sit next to you in bed, hold your hand, and not say a thing. My presence was more important than anything I could say to you. That’s all I wanted to do. I’m sad you…
